Monday, December 8, 2008

A sad note

The joy of hitting 31 weeks today is tempered by news of my Grandpa M's unexpected death yesterday. He recently turned 90 years old but was still living on his own, so his passing comes as quite a shock. At first we thought that Mom wouldn't be able to travel here for the funeral because her surgery is so recent, but her doctors are going to try to work with her to make it happen (she has an appointment with them tomorrow morning for evaluation). Obviously, I cannot attend.

The quads were going to be my grandpa's 55th, 56th, 57th, and 58th great-grandchildren, and he was highly interested in my progress. My mother and I kept him up to date on how things were going and, just a couple of days before coming to the hospital, I was able to visit with him so that he could see my big belly. Turns out that was the last time I would ever see him.

The day my mom found out she had cancer, Grandpa called me and gave me a good talking to. I was a mess, but he reminded me that I was the mom now, and that my job was to take care of these babies; he told me that the most important things for me to do now were to talk to the Lord a lot, to keep a good attitude, and to not lose control. He was right, of course, and his words pulled me straight out of the hole of self pity that could very well have swallowed me up in those difficult first days.

So, Grandpa, although I am very sad to lose you, I know that you would want me to keep focusing on the quads and their well-being right now. And that's what I'm gonna try to do.

13 comments:

Kim said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa, Suzy. That stinks too that you can't go to the funeral. You listen to him though and take great care of those quads.

Andrea said...

So sorry to hear about this, Suzy. From different stories you have told me about him, I know he was a great example and a wonderful man. Wow, 58 great grandchildren? What a legacy!
I'm so glad you were able to see him (with your bulging belly) that last time.

Christine said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Suzy. What a shock. I'm so happy he got to see you pregnant and know that you got so far in your pregnancy. I hope your mom can go to the funeral - that would be so hard if she had to miss it.

Keep taking care of those babies. 31 weeks!!! You are amazing.

-Christine

Kristine said...

Suzy,
I am sorry to read about the passing of your grandpa. It sounds like he was an amazing man, and had some amazing advice for you:)! Those memories will be a few of the many memories that you share on the quads when they are born.
We will be praying for you and for your who family.

Christy said...

Suzy, my heart goes out to you and your family. It sound slike your grandfather really knew how to take care of you. Keep going strong and make him proud of his granddaughter and those 4 beautiful babies.

Christy

Anonymous said...

You continue to be in our prayers for all that you are facing. I am absolutely amazed at how you have done so well carrying these babies. You will have so much to share with them some day about their births. Some will be sad , some will be celebratory, but all will be precious! Jenessa's Aunt Diane

Lori said...

Suzy, we're so sorry to hear about your grandpa. Such sad news to hear when you're getting ready to celebrate something so wonderful. Just live in the beautiful memories you have of him and know that he is so excited for you and Ted.

tambell said...

Suzy,
It made me cry to hear about your talk with Grandpa recently. We are so sad but so glad that we got to see him at his birthday party. He was right to tell you to focus on those babies. So much is going on in your life right now..but lots of praying brings you comfort and peace in the midst of chaos. Like the saying goes, "sometimes, God calms the storm but sometimes, He lets the storm rage and calms the child." I love that. He is your peace to lean onto. I am so glad that you have been able to get so far in your pregnancy. We continue to pray.- Tammy

Anonymous said...

My heart echo's the thoughts of everyone posting here. Shed the tears that will come knowing that your grandfather is with his Maker and I'm guessing He let him in on all the plans he has for you and Ted and your children.

You look fabulous darling! Congratulations on making it so far.... keep holding on! Besos y abrazos- Janine

Laura Bakewell said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am amazed how much you've had to endure through this. Keep plugging away.
You almost have me beat! I made it 31w5d. You can do it!

Laura

Suzanne said...

hey cutie patootie. jen murray has been keeping me updated on your journey. i am SO sorry to hear about your sweet grandpa and am praying for your mom. i cannot even begin to imagine going through all of this while carrying quads. loving you from afar! and cheering you on! if you ever need anything, please don't hesitate to contact me! suzsteece@hotmail.com! love and blessings from the steece quads in texas!

Anonymous said...

May God's peace continue to fill you has you adjust to your Grandpa's home
going. He was a wise man and you have his words in your memory to cheer you on!

You remain in my prayers as you keep growing those little ones in the best place for them to be right now!

Calene Pence, neighbor on Royalwood

Anonymous said...

May God's peace continue to fill you has you adjust to your Grandpa's home
going. He was a wise man and you have his words in your memory to cheer you on!

You remain in my prayers as you keep growing those little ones in the best place for them to be right now!

Calene Pence, neighbor on Royalwood

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